The Reality Of Divorce

I heard my two boys say to me the other day
Watcha doin in the office it's time to play.
Turn off the phone .
Put your pencil down
it's time for us
to wrestle around.

I did the only thing that a dad could do.
I put down my work
and took off my shoes.
I went to the boys
to wrestle around.
To jump, shout,
and act like clown.

Hold me, squeeze me.
daddy come and tease me.
let's go to the show.
daddy be my fiend.

Later that night
we laid down to pray.
We thanked the Lord
for our special day.
As I turned out the lights
I whispered real loud.
I love you boys
and you make me real proud.
Brad McGill
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There is nothing you can do about the reality of divorce. The heart gets broken and it does affect the kids. My boys and I were always close. We had the type of relationship when they were young that it did not matter what we were doing as long as we were together.

When divorce invades the home those relationships get ripped and torn. Since i did not have my children living with me at the time every Tuesday and Thursday were Dad's day.

My son was five at the time and I noticed that when i went to pick him up he would run away from me. This was quit confusing because we were so close.

One day I got him in my car and i tapped his heart and said, " Tell me what is going on with your heart." His answer was so profound for a five year old. He said," it's too hard dad. It's too hard to love more than one. It is easier to just love mom."

I took a deep long breathe and prayed for an answer that would cut through the confusion and touch his heart. I started, "First off let me tell you about love. Our best example is Jesus because He loved us so much. he hung His head on the cross for us. He had such a big heart. And we have a heart like that too. He died for us. And I love you that much. If Jesus can love so many then we can love just one. Then I said " This is not your fault. You will always have my name. I will always be there for you. No matter what, our love can never be torn apart.

Then, I finished by saying, "When you are with your mom give here all the love you have. Wen you are with your dad give me all the love you have. Can you do that? His answer was so simple and sweet. "Sure Dad, I can do that." And he as lived up to that ever since.

I believe that when we reach that point of desperation God intervenes. He was with us in the car. He gave me the right words to say to calm his heart and hold is hand. We serve a great and awesome God.